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FRESNO/CA
Joined: 05/23/08
Posts: 5

May 24th, 2008 - 2:45 PM

i've been trying to figure out how to say goodbye to this ex that literally refuses to leave me alone. he threatens to kill himself if i say i don't want to talk to him anymore, and we got in a fight yesterday where i pushed him to get out of my way and he turned and hit me with his shoulder in my chest. he said he didn't mean to hurt me, he was just frustrated. is this okay because i pushed him first? and i'm tougher than him, hah. but i just don't know how to get away without feeling completely guilty and heartless. i don't want to be a bitch.

what to do?

marriedpunker

NEW YORK/NY
Joined: 01/16/08
Posts: 654

May 24th, 2008 - 4:04 PM

It's never okay for a guy to hit a girl like that. be a bitch and tell him to go fuck himself. he's just manipulating you.
alternate answer: kill him.

idunnolols

CORONA/CA
Joined: 12/01/07
Posts: 3504

May 24th, 2008 - 4:12 PM

fuck that if a girl throws the first punch she gets what she gets.. .... however he is just mindfucking you.. tell him to get fucked...

girlnamedbrigid

SIERRA VISTA/AZ
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 3021

May 24th, 2008 - 10:35 PM

my ex said when we were going through our divorce while i was gone TDY that he thought about dropping our daughter off at a mutual friends house of ours and then killing himself. all i could think was " aw too bad you didn't" i guess i'm a heartless bitch like that......nah, he was just really a prick.

rolandrapture

POUGHKEEPSIE/NY
Joined: 11/04/07
Posts: 505

May 25th, 2008 - 6:13 AM

well what were the circumstances in which the relationship ended?

algorithm

RICHMOND/VA
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 9742

May 25th, 2008 - 6:16 AM

hand him a knife and say "have a nice life"

see also: say "get fucked"

rolandrapture Said:

well what were the circumstances in which the relationship ended?

who gives a fuck.

nextage

Skopje
Joined: 05/21/08
Posts: 15

May 25th, 2008 - 10:10 AM

if he says he'll kill himself-tha means he won't. a dog that barks doesn't bite! just do what makes you happy!!!!!

rolandrapture

POUGHKEEPSIE/NY
Joined: 11/04/07
Posts: 505

May 25th, 2008 - 12:06 PM

nextage Said:

if he says he'll kill himself-tha means he won't. a dog that barks doesn't bite! just do what makes you happy!!!!!

i'm pretty sure junkyard pitbulls/ rotweilers bark like mad, and you know you're right... they dont bite THEY MAUL. that was the WORST analogy ever.

who knows maybe he realized he's an asshole and wants to prove to you that he can change. or on the other hand he wont change and you should just end it. it all depends on what happened and how much you love the guy. if you hate him so passionately then idk why you're even talking to him.

middleofdrinks

FRESNO/CA
Joined: 05/23/08
Posts: 5

May 25th, 2008 - 3:20 PM

agreed with all of the above. and yeah, worst analogy ever. i guess the circumstances don't really matter when it's become a day to day of me wanting to beat the crap out of him because he's such a douche.

hmm.

good answers. :)

ceasing contact!

XdrowningXtears

dunedin
Joined: 10/26/07
Posts: 11

May 25th, 2008 - 6:43 PM

HE WILL KILL HIMSELF GREAT YEAH DIE DICK!!!!!! KILL HER TOO (no offense) But yeah if he kills you two that'd be good and he should kill the guy you like too and the girl that likes him too and anyone else that he wanna kill and himself but don't wait too long he gotta do it now before he forgets about you and gets emo over some other girl who will dump him cos he's a DICK

XdrowningXtears

dunedin
Joined: 10/26/07
Posts: 11

May 25th, 2008 - 6:43 PM

HE WILL KILL HIMSELF GREAT YEAH DIE DICK!!!!!! KILL HER TOO (no offense) But yeah if he kills you two that'd be good and he should kill the guy you like too and the girl that likes him too and anyone else that he wanna kill and himself but don't wait too long he gotta do it now before he forgets about you and gets emo over some other girl who will dump him cos he's a DICK

morta

SAN PEDRO/CA
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 15250

May 25th, 2008 - 8:51 PM

MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF AND QUIT DATING PEOPLE THAT ARE OBVIOUSLY VERY UNSTABLE.

EnderWiggin

LAKE FOREST/CA
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 8933

May 25th, 2008 - 9:13 PM

• Stop making excuses, get the fuck out.
• End on a clear statement of fact: "It didn't work, it's over." "I'm broke up with you, it's over." etc.

After that:

• Cease and desist ALL contact.
• Stop ALL contact.
• Don't even make that phone call you were thinking about.
• I said NO CONTACT.

If he can't deal with that,

• File a restraining order.

You are allowing if not causing greater problems in the future for yourself if you keep "trying to find a way to say goodbye" to a relationship that's ALREADY OVER.

Stop giving him shit to hang on to and move the fuck on.

Veruca_79

Oakville
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 5865

May 26th, 2008 - 12:07 AM

Go someplace warm and tropical, don't invite him. When you come back, only talk about the vacation and how every dude there was bronzed and muscular.

He'll be so bitter he won't want to talk to you.

(I really don't know first hand, but this happened to a friend of mine, and she didn't even mean for it to work that way) But it worked!

algorithm

RICHMOND/VA
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 9742

May 26th, 2008 - 5:25 AM

+ help him and make things easier by murdering him.

drunkenough

CHICAGO/IL
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 5473

May 26th, 2008 - 4:30 PM

be upfront and mature, and tell him that you dont want to talk to him. its really over, and you cant be friends either. no more talking, the end, goodbye.

because sometimes crazy people will get crazier if you ignore them.

idunnolols

CORONA/CA
Joined: 12/01/07
Posts: 3504

May 26th, 2008 - 7:07 PM

if hes gonna kill himself, he has issues other than you. and youre probably not the real contributing factor. fuck it. if he kills himself, you know at least hes never going to bother you again.

tell him to get bent

-jenn

Nolan

SAN FRANCISCO/CA
Joined: 12/04/07
Posts: 2079

May 26th, 2008 - 7:11 PM

middleofdrinks Said:

i've been trying to figure out how to say goodbye to this ex that literally refuses to leave me alone. he threatens to kill himself if i say i don't want to talk to him anymore, and we got in a fight yesterday where i pushed him to get out of my way and he turned and hit me with his shoulder in my chest. he said he didn't mean to hurt me, he was just frustrated. is this okay because i pushed him first? and i'm tougher than him, hah. but i just don't know how to get away without feeling completely guilty and heartless. i don't want to be a bitch.

what to do?

I'd do you

girlnamedbrigid Said:

my ex said when we were going through our divorce while i was gone TDY that he thought about dropping our daughter off at a mutual friends house of ours and then killing himself. all i could think was " aw too bad you didn't" i guess i'm a heartless bitch like that......nah, he was just really a prick.

I'd do you

billet_doux Said:

tell him to get over it.
actually don't even do that. just completely stop talking to him altogether, then he'll have no choice to get over it. the only reason he says shit like that is because he knows it's one way to keep in contact with you.

he's not gonna kill himself. he's just a baby.

I wouldn't do you.

morta Said:

MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF AND QUIT DATING PEOPLE THAT ARE OBVIOUSLY VERY UNSTABLE.

6 beers

Veruca_79 Said:

Go someplace warm and tropical, don't invite him. When you come back, only talk about the vacation and how every dude there was bronzed and muscular.

He'll be so bitter he won't want to talk to you.

(I really don't know first hand, but this happened to a friend of mine, and she didn't even mean for it to work that way) But it worked!

maybe. but probably not.

drunkenough Said:

be upfront and mature, and tell him that you dont want to talk to him. its really over, and you cant be friends either. no more talking, the end, goodbye.

because sometimes crazy people will get crazier if you ignore them.

4 beers.

el_Uste

JERSEY CITY/NJ
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 10386

May 27th, 2008 - 10:18 AM

Nolan Said:

middleofdrinks Said:

i've been trying to figure out how to say goodbye to this ex that literally refuses to leave me alone. he threatens to kill himself if i say i don't want to talk to him anymore, and we got in a fight yesterday where i pushed him to get out of my way and he turned and hit me with his shoulder in my chest. he said he didn't mean to hurt me, he was just frustrated. is this okay because i pushed him first? and i'm tougher than him, hah. but i just don't know how to get away without feeling completely guilty and heartless. i don't want to be a bitch.

what to do?

I'd do you

girlnamedbrigid Said:

my ex said when we were going through our divorce while i was gone TDY that he thought about dropping our daughter off at a mutual friends house of ours and then killing himself. all i could think was " aw too bad you didn't" i guess i'm a heartless bitch like that......nah, he was just really a prick.

I'd do you

billet_doux Said:

tell him to get over it.
actually don't even do that. just completely stop talking to him altogether, then he'll have no choice to get over it. the only reason he says shit like that is because he knows it's one way to keep in contact with you.

he's not gonna kill himself. he's just a baby.

I wouldn't do you.

morta Said:

MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF AND QUIT DATING PEOPLE THAT ARE OBVIOUSLY VERY UNSTABLE.

6 beers

Veruca_79 Said:

Go someplace warm and tropical, don't invite him. When you come back, only talk about the vacation and how every dude there was bronzed and muscular.

He'll be so bitter he won't want to talk to you.

(I really don't know first hand, but this happened to a friend of mine, and she didn't even mean for it to work that way) But it worked!

maybe. but probably not.

drunkenough Said:

be upfront and mature, and tell him that you dont want to talk to him. its really over, and you cant be friends either. no more talking, the end, goodbye.

because sometimes crazy people will get crazier if you ignore them.

4 beers.

WOW

mimo

WEST COVINA/CA
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 103

May 27th, 2008 - 11:24 AM

Your ex sounds like a leech! Once the hitting starts it's time to get this guy out of your life for good regardless if it was an accident or not. He has to let you be and he has to move on with life. Try not to feel bad if he threatens that he's going to kill himself, he shouldnt make you feel responsible for his selfish actions.

girlnamedbrigid

SIERRA VISTA/AZ
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 3021

May 27th, 2008 - 11:36 AM

algorithm Said:

+ help him and make things easier by murdering him.

yes.

Nolan Said:

middleofdrinks Said:

i've been trying to figure out how to say goodbye to this ex that literally refuses to leave me alone. he threatens to kill himself if i say i don't want to talk to him anymore, and we got in a fight yesterday where i pushed him to get out of my way and he turned and hit me with his shoulder in my chest. he said he didn't mean to hurt me, he was just frustrated. is this okay because i pushed him first? and i'm tougher than him, hah. but i just don't know how to get away without feeling completely guilty and heartless. i don't want to be a bitch.

what to do?

I'd do you

girlnamedbrigid Said:

my ex said when we were going through our divorce while i was gone TDY that he thought about dropping our daughter off at a mutual friends house of ours and then killing himself. all i could think was " aw too bad you didn't" i guess i'm a heartless bitch like that......nah, he was just really a prick.

I'd do you

billet_doux Said:

tell him to get over it.
actually don't even do that. just completely stop talking to him altogether, then he'll have no choice to get over it. the only reason he says shit like that is because he knows it's one way to keep in contact with you.

he's not gonna kill himself. he's just a baby.

I wouldn't do you.

morta Said:

MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET A HOLD OF YOURSELF AND QUIT DATING PEOPLE THAT ARE OBVIOUSLY VERY UNSTABLE.

6 beers

Veruca_79 Said:

Go someplace warm and tropical, don't invite him. When you come back, only talk about the vacation and how every dude there was bronzed and muscular.

He'll be so bitter he won't want to talk to you.

(I really don't know first hand, but this happened to a friend of mine, and she didn't even mean for it to work that way) But it worked!

maybe. but probably not.

drunkenough Said:

be upfront and mature, and tell him that you dont want to talk to him. its really over, and you cant be friends either. no more talking, the end, goodbye.

because sometimes crazy people will get crazier if you ignore them.

4 beers.

lawls. why thank you. how charming.

helper_monkey

GOODRICH/MI
Joined: 04/24/07
Posts: 7670

May 27th, 2008 - 4:12 PM

I say its time to be a heartless bitch to him. remember he is just using guilt to do exactly that, guilt you into a relationship with him. my advice fake your death or witness protection program.