i dont think i totally have my mind made up about teh anal secks but....im leaning towards KEEP YER DICK AWAY FROM MY ASSHOLE!
i dont understand the allure. doenst it freak you out to be sticking your junk where your woman poops out of?? im being completely serious here. lets get all these questions out of the way.
I'll try to answer some of the questions posited/ comments made in this thread, but first, know that if you or your partner aren't interested in anal sex, it's probably a good idea to drop the issue. It's going to be difficult to perceive any kind of stimulation as enjoyable if said stimulation is the result of feeling pressured in some way. If you're curious, grab a latex glove (or medical quality non-latex, if you're allergic to latex), some lube, and feel around a little on your own while you masturbate. It's much easier to relax and tap into your body's reactions if there's no pressure on the situation.
Regarding the anus and rectum:
Yes, feces are voided through the anus and rectum, but they aren't stored there. There are probably going to be trace amounts of fecal matter there, but the body part/object penetrating isn't going to be pushing into poo.
The fecal matter issue is important, though, if you/you and your partner are considering putting said body part/object into any other orifices. Because fecal matter carries bacteria, it's important that you use some sort of protection (barrier change [read:condom/glove change] or washing with anti-microbial soap) before anything that was in the anus makes its way into one's mouth or vag.
It's also important to use condoms or gloves and a latex-safe lube because unlike the vagina, the anus and rectum aren't self-lubricating. If you don't use some sort of barrier, like a condom, that becomes slippery when wet, the chances of tearing the anal or rectal tissues increase. Bacteria + tears in the skin = possible risk of infection. This tearing of skin also increases the risk of STI transmission.
Regarding pain upon insertion of body part/object:
First, a warning: NEVER insert anything into the anus/rectum that is narrower at the base than it is at the inserting end. The sphincter muscles in the anus don't just work in one direction. They can push out feces, but also "pull" in objects. If you don't want to see your doctor about some object stuck in your anus, remember to use toys that are intended for anal use and flare at the end. Your local sex shop can probably help figure out what is and isn't safe.
The anus and rectum are full of nerve endings, which is why some people find anal stimulation/penetration to be enjoyable. However, just as shoving a baby out of a vulva can be painful (small vulva, big baby), so can putting something large into one's anus/rectum be. The anus/rectum are tight and it should be noted that there's a pretty big size differential between the average pinky and the average penis (or something of equivalent size). Start small. Gentle and slow are key words to remember. The sphincter muscles need a chance to adjust to the sensation and relax.
Lube and a barrier are also key factors. If you rub your fingers together completely dry, the skin drags and has a good deal of friction. The skin of your anus isn't as tough as that on your fingertips and is extremely sensitive. If you're using lube and a condom, glove, or slippery/smooth toy, the friction is going to be considerably decreased, so the sensations you receive will be less likely to feel painful and more likely to feel pleasurable.
There are some excellent guides out there, some of which might be available at your local public library. If you're too embarrassed to check them out, take an afternoon to read them in the library. Most sex shops should have a decent books section, but many independent book sellers also have them. If that fails, amazon has a decent selection to choose from. I'd recommend anything by Tristan Taormino.
Talking about anal sex ruins anal sex.
The way talking about drinking ruins drinking.
It has something to do with the interest i lose in a girl when she starts bragging about they way she sucks dick. As if it should be a history book or something.
I've yet to experience a conversation about drinking that has taken away from the fun of drinking.
"Hey what's your name?"
"JESSIKA, I AM SO DRUNK!"
"haha, yeah drinks are yummy,[pause take a sip] what are you drinking?"
"PBR DUH!"
"yeah, that stuff tastes like pee..."
"THIS ONE TIME I DRANK AN ENTIRE HANDLE OF CAPTAIN MORGAN"
"yeah?"
"LOL I KNOW WHEN I WOKE UP IT TOOK ME 4 HOURS TO FIND MY CLOTHES AT THAT HOUSE"
I've had conversations that made me want to drink. But that has nothing to do with the topic.
this happened to me long ago in local bar. I was taking shots of Dr. feasablaks special fluids and my "amigo" as you westerners call them was cheering me, telling me that he had done so many shots before. I felt embarrassed! so instead I threw shot in his boasting face and lit him on fire with smoking lighter, he never taked to me again!
