jessbuck_wtf Said:

he got pretty mad when I asked if he would pay me back
lol

shit... i don't know how to date.

jessbuck_wtf Said:

he got pretty mad when I asked if he would pay me back
lol

shit... i don't know how to date.

gibby Said:

Eh....

If there are any romantic inklings the dude should pay 100% of the time until a relationship is established. After that you can split stuff or treat one another... but during the "courting process", the dude gets all the bills imo.

discostu Said:

LOL WTF DON'T ASK FOR MONEY BACK IF *YOU* INVITED *HIM* OUT ON THE DATE.

THAT'S SO MUCH FAIL I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO BEGIN!!!

I'M SURE HE NOT ONLY THINKS YOU'RE A CHEAP-ASS, BUT I GUARANTEE HE WOULDN'T WANT TO DATE YOU ANYMORE.

gibby Said:

Eh....

If there are any romantic inklings the dude should pay 100% of the time until a relationship is established. After that you can split stuff or treat one another... but during the "courting process", the dude gets all the bills imo.

discostu Said:

FURTHERMORE, IF *HE* HAD INITIATED THE COURTING PROCESS, THEN YES HE WOULD PAY. BECAUSE SHE INITIATED IT, IT'S TOTALLY ON HER.

bradarad Said:

i disagree! gonna have to go with gubs on this one. certainly, this shouldn't AT ALL be discussed BEFORE the dinner. dude should just grab the bill when it arrives. if girl offers to go dutch you DECLINE. she should then say "thanks, that's very nice of you". if she again offers on the second or third date, and insists more than twice ("no no, really, you paid last time...") well, welcome to the friend zone, pal.

adamgetsawesome Said:

It's not always friend zone if that happens... some women just don't like being paid for.

bradarad Said:

THEN THESE WOMEN AREN'T WORTH DATING. once she's pays early on, she has just bought the right to "and then there's this new girl at work, courtney... and all the guys think she's so fucking great but she's such a whiney bitch and i can't stand her... you should have seen what she was wearing today oh my god she is such a slut... and then bryce is all "great idea courtney" in our meeting today and i was all "are you kidding me?! i thought of that like two weeks ago!" but of course he didn't notice because i'm not all flaunting my tits all over the office like a whore. i'm pretty sure she stole my highlighter too, and it was my favorite one. i had that one for like two years. who does she think she is, anyway? ugh i bet if you saw her you would think she was pretty too. guys are such assholes."

bradarad Said:

i disagree! gonna have to go with gubs on this one. certainly, this shouldn't AT ALL be discussed BEFORE the dinner. dude should just grab the bill when it arrives. if girl offers to go dutch you DECLINE. she should then say "thanks, that's very nice of you". if she again offers on the second or third date, and insists more than twice ("no no, really, you paid last time...") well, welcome to the friend zone, pal.

bradarad Said:

i disagree! gonna have to go with gubs on this one. certainly, this shouldn't AT ALL be discussed BEFORE the dinner. dude should just grab the bill when it arrives. if girl offers to go dutch you DECLINE. she should then say "thanks, that's very nice of you". if she again offers on the second or third date, and insists more than twice ("no no, really, you paid last time...") well, welcome to the friend zone, pal.

discostu Said:

LOOK. IT ISN'T ABOUT DISCUSSING IT BEFORE THE DATE/DINNER. DUDE GOT ASKED OUT BY HER. IT'S NOT HIS RESPONSIBILITY OR OBLIGATION TO PAY FOR THE MEAL. YES, HE COULD HAVE BEEN POLITE AND OFFERED TO PAY, BUT THE OWNESS IS STILL ON HER TO FOOT THE BILL. SORRY, THAT'S JUST HOW THINGS WORK.

SHE REALLY SHOULDN'T BE UPSET BECAUSE HE WAS OBVIOUSLY NOT EXPECTING TO BE THE ONE TO PAY BECAUSE SHE ASKED HIM OUT ON THE DATE. THEREFORE, IN THIS INSTANCE ONLY, SHE SHOULD PAY. IF HE WERE TO INITIATE A SECOND DATE (THOUGH IT DOESN'T SEEM LIKELY!), HE SHOULD PAY FOR EVERYTHING ON THAT DATE. END OF STORY.

hathos Said:

LOST IN ALL OF THESE DUDES BEING SEXIST AND NOT LETTING THE WOMEN PAY FOR DINNERS:

I THOUGHT JESS HAD A BOYFRIEND.

?

hathos Said:

IF YOU INVITE, YOU OUGHT TO BE READY TO PAY.


- KOLEY (DON'T FEEL LIKE LOGGING OUT AND BACK IN)



ALSO ASSUMING THE MAN SHOULD ALWAYS PAY _IS_ SEXIST.


http://P.S]http://P.S[/url]]http://P.S]http://P.S[/url][/url]. YOU SHOULD HOLD THE DOOR FOR ANYONE. ITS CALLED BEING POLITE.

jessbuck_wtf Said:

he got pretty mad when I asked if he would pay me back
lol

shit... i don't know how to date.

discostu Said:

FURTHERMORE, IF *HE* HAD INITIATED THE COURTING PROCESS, THEN YES HE WOULD PAY. BECAUSE SHE INITIATED IT, IT'S TOTALLY ON HER.

girlnamedbrigid Said:

i think if YOU invite someone to dinner, you should offer to pay.


that's how i think....if someone invites me to dinner i normally think they will pay since they threw the invite out (i'm talking about a date, not just with casual friends) but always come prepared because i really don't *expect* them to pay.....

EnderWiggin Said:

How about stop dating mama's boys.

He's a tool if he didn't' at least offer to pay for his half of the dinner, even if he didn't expect to in the first place.

It has nothing to do with who-asked-who-out etiquette, it's the difference between going on a date and freeloading off somebody.

gibby Said:

Eh....

If there are any romantic inklings the dude should pay 100% of the time until a relationship is established. After that you can split stuff or treat one another... but during the "courting process", the dude gets all the bills imo.

cicada Said:

i just finished reading the thread, and i would like to also offer this monkeywrench. i have often been in the situation where i go out with someone that i make WAY more money than. in this case, i usually do something like pick up the bar tab or put a few twenties down on the meal. but now i am dating someone who makes a lot more than me, so i don't feel bad about making him pay for everything.

HectorXDelgado Said:

OH WAIT IS THIS ONE OF THOSE 'PICK AND CHOOSE' FEMINIST MOMENTS???