lol totally random, but im curious as to people's opinions - New Users!

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

October 13th, 2009 - 9:10 PM

Im in love with my best friend, He claims to be gay,
but he ony started to like boys when the bi-sexual trend came along,
but he's only dated guys since.
Help?

redrocksbaby

LONGWOOD/FL
Joined: 10/08/09
Posts: 12

October 13th, 2009 - 9:52 PM

how old is he?

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

October 13th, 2009 - 10:00 PM

redrocksbaby Said:

how old is he?

17.

wavesxaway

GARLAND/TX
Joined: 09/25/08
Posts: 3337

October 13th, 2009 - 10:00 PM

you answered your own question, honestly
no one choses to be their sexual orientation
its not that easy
you might need to move on

redrocksbaby

LONGWOOD/FL
Joined: 10/08/09
Posts: 12

October 13th, 2009 - 10:09 PM

17. he could still be confused. you know? i have a lot of gay friends and at that age anything is possible. i know it's cliche but maybe tell him how you feel. worst case scenario he'll blow you off.
best of luck.

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

October 13th, 2009 - 10:51 PM

Lol i could never stand to tell him how i feel, relationships could last a while but the friendship we have could last a life time and i love him to much to loose him. I'm really just over all curious as to whether he's actually gay or not.

15StoryFall

BEDFORD/VA
Joined: 07/15/09
Posts: 1647

October 14th, 2009 - 12:07 PM

You never know, sometimes the confusion thing lasts for quite some time. I have a friend who's a girl and only dated girls between the ages of fifteen and twenty-four before realizing she likes dudes.

sunshinee

DRY FORK/VA
Joined: 06/17/09
Posts: 913

October 14th, 2009 - 12:44 PM

I fell in love with my best friend, and he knew, but did nothing about it.
Now we don't really talk. But hey, I still love him, but I can tolerate not communicating.
Sometimes moving on is the best thing.

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

October 15th, 2009 - 8:41 AM

I dunno, it's really weird, he's exactly like a straight guy, except he's just into dudes.
Like nobody's gay-dar goes off with him because he seems so straight.

xJORDANx

DENNISON/OH
Joined: Old School
Posts: 41

October 15th, 2009 - 8:53 AM

Find out when he turns 21 and gets drunk with his buds, then you'll know

ergophobic

OMAHA/NE
Joined: 09/27/09
Posts: 80

October 15th, 2009 - 12:40 PM

find guys that don't smoke pole.

MechanicalWings

SAN JOSE/CA
Joined: 02/25/08
Posts: 4046

October 15th, 2009 - 1:23 PM

lol

Starpunctures

ALBUQUERQUE/NM
Joined: Old School
Posts: 815

October 15th, 2009 - 1:31 PM

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

JamesNonstop

ONTARIO
Joined: 12/16/08
Posts: 119

October 18th, 2009 - 4:13 PM

alcohol + rape.

ghostsandvodka

NEWARK/DE
Joined: 03/15/08
Posts: 4575

October 18th, 2009 - 4:18 PM

ergophobic Said:

find guys that don't smoke pole.

JamesNonstop Said:

alcohol + rape.

best answers
quality advice

QarahSuinn

BROOKLYN/NY
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 160

October 18th, 2009 - 4:19 PM

threads like these make me wonder how many legitimate the new profiles are

wandaizzole

Toronto
Joined: 10/12/09
Posts: 114

October 18th, 2009 - 6:02 PM

Starpunctures Said:

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

wowza ^that is probably the best advice you can get.
i agree all the way.

deadbilly

NEW BRAUNFELS/TX
Joined: 09/23/09
Posts: 38

October 18th, 2009 - 8:29 PM

Starpunctures Said:

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

I like this girl, I agree.

ArsonIsFun

SAN FRANCISCO/CA
Joined: 10/18/09
Posts: 15

October 18th, 2009 - 11:00 PM

I'm no expert, but when a guy says he's gay, he usually is. However, sexual orientation isn't really a black and white issue, it's possible that right now he's just down with a little man love and maybe next year he'll be over it. Probably not though.

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

October 24th, 2009 - 3:01 PM

QarahSuinn Said:

threads like these make me wonder how many legitimate the new profiles are

I am not a fake thank you.
I will make i sign picture if you wish.

Starpunctures

ALBUQUERQUE/NM
Joined: Old School
Posts: 815

October 24th, 2009 - 3:41 PM

wandaizzole Said:

Starpunctures Said:

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

wowza ^that is probably the best advice you can get.
i agree all the way.

deadbilly Said:

Starpunctures Said:

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

I like this girl, I agree.

Thanks.

CausticRainbow Said:

QarahSuinn Said:

threads like these make me wonder how many legitimate the new profiles are

I am not a fake thank you.
I will make i sign picture if you wish.

I hope you've found some closure in all of this.

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

October 24th, 2009 - 4:10 PM

Starpunctures Said:

wandaizzole Said:

Starpunctures Said:

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

wowza ^that is probably the best advice you can get.
i agree all the way.

deadbilly Said:

Starpunctures Said:

Babe, you're just going to have to tell him, if you really feel that way.

You can't change him, but you can give him the awareness of your feelings.

Whatever happens after that, well...

that's something you will just have to deal with.

Best of luck.

I like this girl, I agree.

Thanks.

CausticRainbow Said:

QarahSuinn Said:

threads like these make me wonder how many legitimate the new profiles are

I am not a fake thank you.
I will make i sign picture if you wish.

I hope you've found some closure in all of this.

Thank you, it's given me a bit to think about.

LotusOhLotus

Nickel City
Joined: 09/25/09
Posts: 95

October 24th, 2009 - 4:19 PM

He probably already knows you like him. Your body language and eye contact probably give it away.
I'm thinking maybe this is infatuation anyways. Like he's your good friend and you trust him and you guys have alot in common so it's normal for you to develop feelings for him.

You're right tho. I mean if you think you guys won't talk after you tell him you probably won't. Which says alot.
Move on, and if it's meant to be then one day it will.

holychode

KETCHUM/ID
Joined: 09/20/09
Posts: 349

October 25th, 2009 - 9:14 AM

Don't tell him how you feel, it will ruin the friendship.

Let him be gay.

If he wanted to be with you, he probably would have done something about it by now.

Move on, you can't do what he likes...

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

November 2nd, 2009 - 7:37 PM

It just really sucks in General, we've been best friends for 3 years now, and the way i feel about him always gets in the way with having close relationships with other guys, because no matter how much i want to like them, the way i feel about my best friend is so much more intense.

Starpunctures

ALBUQUERQUE/NM
Joined: Old School
Posts: 815

November 2nd, 2009 - 7:42 PM

CausticRainbow Said:

It just really sucks in General, we've been best friends for 3 years now, and the way i feel about him always gets in the way with having close relationships with other guys, because no matter how much i want to like them, the way i feel about my best friend is so much more intense.

You need to just tell him.
If you don't it will not only eat at you, and affect you views and feelings about romantic love... but it will eventually kill your friendship as well.

If you care about him, you need to be honest with him.

He is gay, and that is something you cannot change.
But you also have feelings for him, and the more you bottle them, the more you are going to damage.

Tell him, just don't expect a happily ever after.

Shitty life lesson, but indeed something many of us have to go through.

yourgravestword

SAN MARCOS/TX
Joined: 10/28/09
Posts: 115

November 3rd, 2009 - 8:13 AM

Just tell him how you feel. Worst case, your friendship is strained and whatnot for awhile/ever.
To be (brutally honest), you probably weren't going to be friends with him forever. You life takes you down different paths and you meet new people while losing others.

Just a thought.

CausticRainbow

Edmonton
Joined: 10/11/09
Posts: 32

November 3rd, 2009 - 4:42 PM

Starpunctures Said:

CausticRainbow Said:

It just really sucks in General, we've been best friends for 3 years now, and the way i feel about him always gets in the way with having close relationships with other guys, because no matter how much i want to like them, the way i feel about my best friend is so much more intense.

You need to just tell him.
If you don't it will not only eat at you, and affect you views and feelings about romantic love... but it will eventually kill your friendship as well.

If you care about him, you need to be honest with him.

He is gay, and that is something you cannot change.
But you also have feelings for him, and the more you bottle them, the more you are going to damage.

Tell him, just don't expect a happily ever after.

Shitty life lesson, but indeed something many of us have to go through.

I\ve told him how i feel 2 times before, and nothing ever changes, it's just going to create an akwardness for a while, so i don't see how thats going to do anything at all, plus it's alot easier said then done.

Shelburt

CANTON/NC
Joined: 07/13/09
Posts: 3743

November 3rd, 2009 - 5:04 PM

lol ur s0 randum

Shelburt

CANTON/NC
Joined: 07/13/09
Posts: 3743

November 3rd, 2009 - 5:05 PM

emphasis on the 'dum'

over and out

HeartCooksBrain

Joined: 10/28/09
Posts: 263

November 3rd, 2009 - 5:17 PM

you love someone that isn't going to try to control you, leave you,or hurt you because he's your friend and not boyfriend. you don't always have those loves in your life. just enjoy what you have and move on or find someone like him that's not gay. don't let attraction or emotions ruin friendships. most of my best friends are girls and there were always feelings, but we just stayed friends and we're still friends now because of that. the few friends i dated or hooked up with we don't talk as much as the others. hope that sheds some light. take care.

Maladjusted

ROSEVILLE/CA
Joined: 06/30/09
Posts: 177

November 4th, 2009 - 2:04 AM

I was going to ask how old you are, but then rushing the subject, assumed you are a teenager.

in which, relationships during the teenage years = waste of valuable time that could be spent, doing things that would progress you knowing yourself better, instead of getting to know a fake persona put on the surface by some asshole, who then cheats on you. neglects you. or any of the other bad things you can do to a person's mind when they trust you with their being.

code_conundrum

SEATTLE/WA
Joined: 10/29/09
Posts: 238

November 4th, 2009 - 2:07 AM

Maladjusted Said:

I was going to ask how old you are, but then rushing the subject, assumed you are a teenager.

in which, relationships during the teenage years = waste of valuable time that could be spent, doing things that would progress you knowing yourself better, instead of getting to know a fake persona put on the surface by some asshole, who then cheats on you. neglects you. or any of the other bad things you can do to a person's mind when they trust you with their being.

^THIS

thank you.

ryanage

PALM COAST/FL
Joined: 09/08/08
Posts: 8706

November 5th, 2009 - 10:09 PM

h1lary

HOUSTON/TX
Joined: 07/21/09
Posts: 578

November 5th, 2009 - 10:13 PM

Whether or not you tell him how you feel, your feelings are going to come out somehow.
You can either tell him directly, and he can reject you or yall can date or whatever, but if you don't tell him, you're still going to act that way, and your body language will give it away.

Telling someone is always easier for you AND the person than finding out from someone else.
Go with how you feel. If he's into you, A+. If he's actually gay, he'll most likely laugh it off, and yalls friendship will be a little strained, but fine in the long run.